http://atlstateofmind.disqus.com/two cool ass 'round the way chicks talking about life, love, music and everything in betweenenTue, 20 Oct 2009 16:38:46 -0000http://www.atlstateofmind.com/?p=727#comment-20649691<p>Guys, if you were not good enough for a woman when she was in her prime, why should put with her diva entitlement or whatever when she is past her prime?</p>burtonaTue, 20 Oct 2009 16:38:46 -0000http://www.atlstateofmind.com/?p=727#comment-16913550<p>Kudos and Accolades on this post!!!</p><p>No one wants to be second no doubt but it is reality nonetheless. It is kind of sad but I would have to say that I have been that girl but now being a woman I am able to look at these situations with better understanding. It was generally an EGO trip. I one was no so secure with who I was and it was always nice to have Mr. Nice Guy to tell me how awesome I was. Now I know that was not fair to that guy. I also know how it feels to not be someone's first choice because I wasnt considered to what he though of as a "dime".</p><p>Now being a woman comfortable in my own skin I know better and no longer willing to settle or be settled for. When you no better you do better.</p>nvfrecklesSat, 19 Sep 2009 02:10:00 -0000http://www.atlstateofmind.com/?p=727#comment-12040778<p>i think if i've ever been guilty of this, it was because of my young age and mind and not realizing what i needed and deserved in a relationship. and i'm with ms. alise: even tho i'm now married, the dudes i dated back in the day wouldn't get a chance with me today.</p><p>why are some men ok with 2nd place tho? is it because they feel they can get everything without the commitment or is it something else?</p>DopeAliciousThu, 02 Jul 2009 14:06:42 -0000http://www.atlstateofmind.com/?p=727#comment-12020656<p>I have been that chick... multiple times, and for reasons unknown to be truthful. I didn't realize the damage, because so many men put on the front that they are not hurt and invincible so I guess at that time it never crossed my mind that the same things that would infuriate and deeply hurt me would slide off y'all's back. Oh how wrong I was. I now have grown up and appreciate men for much different reasons than I used to, so Mr. SOB doesn't even get on the porch, let alone the front door....</p><p>...great post.</p>naturallyaliseWed, 01 Jul 2009 23:46:25 -0000