I have been that chick... multiple times, and for reasons unknown to be truthful. I didn't realize the damage, because so many men put on the front that they are not hurt and invincible so I guess at that time it never crossed my mind that the same things that would infuriate and deeply hurt me would slide off y'all's back. Oh how wrong I was. I now have grown up and appreciate men for much different reasons than I used to, so Mr. SOB doesn't even get on the porch, let alone the front door....
...great post.
DopeAlicious
· 5 months ago
i think if i've ever been guilty of this, it was because of my young age and mind and not realizing what i needed and deserved in a relationship. and i'm with ms. alise: even tho i'm now married, the dudes i dated back in the day wouldn't get a chance with me today.
why are some men ok with 2nd place tho? is it because they feel they can get everything without the commitment or is it something else?
nvfreckles
· 3 months ago
Kudos and Accolades on this post!!!
No one wants to be second no doubt but it is reality nonetheless. It is kind of sad but I would have to say that I have been that girl but now being a woman I am able to look at these situations with better understanding. It was generally an EGO trip. I one was no so secure with who I was and it was always nice to have Mr. Nice Guy to tell me how awesome I was. Now I know that was not fair to that guy. I also know how it feels to not be someone's first choice because I wasnt considered to what he though of as a "dime".
Now being a woman comfortable in my own skin I know better and no longer willing to settle or be settled for. When you no better you do better.
burtona
· 2 months ago
Guys, if you were not good enough for a woman when she was in her prime, why should put with her diva entitlement or whatever when she is past her prime?
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...great post.
why are some men ok with 2nd place tho? is it because they feel they can get everything without the commitment or is it something else?
No one wants to be second no doubt but it is reality nonetheless. It is kind of sad but I would have to say that I have been that girl but now being a woman I am able to look at these situations with better understanding. It was generally an EGO trip. I one was no so secure with who I was and it was always nice to have Mr. Nice Guy to tell me how awesome I was. Now I know that was not fair to that guy. I also know how it feels to not be someone's first choice because I wasnt considered to what he though of as a "dime".
Now being a woman comfortable in my own skin I know better and no longer willing to settle or be settled for. When you no better you do better.