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Re: Not First Place…

burtona — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 16:38:46 -0000

Guys, if you were not good enough for a woman when she was in her prime, why should put with her diva entitlement or whatever when she is past her prime?

Re: Not First Place…

nvfreckles — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 02:10:00 -0000

Kudos and Accolades on this post!!!

No one wants to be second no doubt but it is reality nonetheless. It is kind of sad but I would have to say that I have been that girl but now being a woman I am able to look at these situations with better understanding. It was generally an EGO trip. I one was no so secure with who I was and it was always nice to have Mr. Nice Guy to tell me how awesome I was. Now I know that was not fair to that guy. I also know how it feels to not be someone's first choice because I wasnt considered to what he though of as a "dime".

Now being a woman comfortable in my own skin I know better and no longer willing to settle or be settled for. When you no better you do better.

Re: Not First Place…

DopeAlicious — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 14:06:42 -0000

i think if i've ever been guilty of this, it was because of my young age and mind and not realizing what i needed and deserved in a relationship. and i'm with ms. alise: even tho i'm now married, the dudes i dated back in the day wouldn't get a chance with me today.

why are some men ok with 2nd place tho? is it because they feel they can get everything without the commitment or is it something else?

Re: Not First Place…

naturallyalise — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 23:46:25 -0000

I have been that chick... multiple times, and for reasons unknown to be truthful. I didn't realize the damage, because so many men put on the front that they are not hurt and invincible so I guess at that time it never crossed my mind that the same things that would infuriate and deeply hurt me would slide off y'all's back. Oh how wrong I was. I now have grown up and appreciate men for much different reasons than I used to, so Mr. SOB doesn't even get on the porch, let alone the front door....

...great post.

Re: The Friend Zone

E. Brock (AKA She Hate Me) — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 23:53:57 -0000

What makes a dude put a chick in the FZ?
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Sweetheart, with all men, you are NEVER in the Friend Zone. Not even for one second. You are women that we haven't hit. Yet.

It's harsh, but it's the truth. There's a whole ladder system that is employed by both women and men. The problem is, women have two ladders "Partner" and "Friend". Men have one. "Mate". No matter what goes on with us, women either move up the ladder or move down. With women, if we move up the "Friend" ladder, we move down the "Mate" ladder, and vice versa.

Well, that's in a nutshell.

I can admit that I do have a couple of female friends and they are truly friends. But best believe, they didn't get there easily. And please believe that I was out to "mate" with them first.

Re: The Funny Thing About a Woman’s Intuition…

E. Brock (AKA She Hate Me) — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 16:35:54 -0000

*LOL @ Q*

Men have natural instincts. When it comes to intuition, however, we have none. Zero. Zilch.

Women are better cheaters simply because they know exactly what to hide and what not to hide. Some men don't know about not dating 2 women in the same area, or if you're in a racially predominant area not to take 2 women to the same watering holes. These are lessons that wasn't taught to men, they had to find out the hard way.

Good men never really expect their woman to cheat, but they know that the threat is always there. Being a good guy sometimes means that the bad guy will always be attractive to your female, no matter how much she says he's not. The bad boys SHOULD expect their woman to cheat, but most are so egoistical, they think that it can never happen to them (and it always does, women will cheat before they leave, just so the last words they say will sting a bit more. Nothing hurts more than hearing a woman you dated say "By the way, I smashed the homies!"), and that they are immune to emotion.

Crazy talk.

By the way, your new "friend" needs to end that relationship, and fast. Dude is only a walking time bomb, and she'll either get preggers, a disease, or both.

I hope she finds her way out.

Re: Old Skool Players to New Skool Fools

E. Brock (AKA She Hate Me) — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 16:17:28 -0000

I think that it's crazy how everyone wants *this* to be the bottom line, yet are unwilling to spend *that* to get it.

So, let me get this right (because it's like this here in VA, too), in order for this school to be accredited and stay open, I have to get my students to pass a test. Now, you won't give me the funding needed to hire the teachers who are qualified enough to teach the students the lessons they need to pass the test to keep your job up and running so you can keep our school up and running getting the test scores you need, but you'll get everybody to come check out test scores because, and I quote, 'we think they are cheating due to the number of excessive erasure marks'.

How does that work? What am I, as a teacher who wants to see these kids have an education, supposed to do? This is why we need a total reset when it comes to schooling.

Re: The Funny Thing About a Woman’s Intuition…

Quintin — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 17:25:05 -0000

You have no idea how many times I have prayed that a girl would just break up with me because she thought I was cheating. Not because I was but because she was SO attached I was afraid she would Left Eye my stuff.

Re: My Weakness

E. Brock (AKA She Hate Me) — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 00:14:38 -0000

See, now I'm gonna have to write a post about what gets me weak in a female besides thighs and Nia Long.

I love how you like a dude to have smarts. Makes me feels happy knowing my 17 years of schooling didn't go to waste.

Re: Unwise Counselors

E. Brock (AKA She Hate Me) — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 00:25:37 -0000

I have to chuckle at the advice that you were given.

Seems as if those women took a page from a man's book. Every single line they told you didn't come from them, it came from a man who tried warping their mind. (And they were successful)

Re: Pleasure P. is a Wise Man…

spottieottie98 — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 15:48:33 -0000

I can't blv you watched this shit-o-rama and survived...and didn't gauge your eyes out...or run screaming into the street. Please tell me you at least threw up over the balcony! Bwaahaha @ "red panties", I thought they were recycled doo-rags stiched together w/ stray hairs from his comb...look like the draws from the gay dud in Kung-Fu Hustle, lmfao. I bet he does want Bow & Trey to "challenge" him...mhm, challenge him to rock out w/ his cock out!

BOY STOP!

Re: It Takes A Lot To Create The Perfect Man

DopeAlicious — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 07:20:15 -0000

and just think about it, this fool is about to have yet another spawn for us to love and behold lol

Re: It Takes A Lot To Create The Perfect Man

thejadednyer — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 02:49:11 -0000

OMG... I was reading along, minding my own business and then... The King of Fraggle Rock himself- Lil Wayne appears.

And I threw up all over my keyboard.

Thanks!

lol

Re: Response to Xilla: D*ck For A Day

Ashy — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 00:26:46 -0000

lol at this response

Re: Permanent Remnants of Love

spottieottie98 — Wed, 20 May 2009 08:34:47 -0000

1) why does her have her looking like the goddamn virgin mary (velvet rope, anyone?!)
2) you can only see the tattoo if he takes his shirt off (shudder)
3) per your post...i give them 6 more months (this is obviously a ploy to keep her around, she was done (SON!) after finding his stash of midget porn magazines)

Re: Jay-Z & Ciara do Chastain Park

spottieottie98 — Fri, 15 May 2009 16:39:54 -0000

sooooo: Chastain will be full of semi-old men and stoopid, young girls? Did J & SD have anything to do w/ this...i smell guap :-) And yes, CiCi is an entertainer but "live singer"...notsosure, hope my HandyDandy VodkaFlask is up to the challenge!

Re: what i don’t want for valentine’s day

She Writes — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 23:50:59 -0000

well 1 out of 5 ain't bad. thanks for the suggestion. breppies here i come!!

Re: what i don’t want for valentine’s day

Dean — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 15:18:16 -0000

I believe I may be able to help you with wish #1 on your list, the earbuds. Check out a site called Breppies dot com. They have some little earbud covers (like little socks) that cover your entire earbud, and they really help keep the little buds in your ears. I think you can get a pair for free with some S&H. I really like mine and I think they come in 4 or 5 different colors.

Sorry I can't help you with the other four......

Re: New Videos: Ciara feat. Young Jeezy - Never Ever/Jazmine Sullivan - Lions, Tigers & Bears

MsLizziA — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 18:47:58 -0000

Love the fact that Ciara can dance her ass off, hate the fact that she swaggajacked THE PISS out Janet Jackson

Jasmine Sullivan's video is ehhh at best. But i do enjoy this song

Re: Top 10…

djandy4000 — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 16:45:10 -0000

ditto, your list speaks the truth while MTV speaks to, um, well whatever MTV wants to tell people the truth it.

Check out my video playlist too for a taste of what I'm feeling these days...

http://www.redux.com/playli...

Re: A Writer’s Market

kimosorio1 — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 00:44:42 -0000

HI! I do not think that you should ever stop pursuing your passion. People who love to write, whether they do it professionally or in their journals (i guess, blogs now) are not who that blog was directed at. It is also not directed at new writers. It was directed at people who want to write for the wrong reasons :). Tell Alisha too.

Re: A Writer’s Market

Alisha — Mon, 24 Sep 2007 11:15:15 -0000

Hi! I found your blog through Empress. I am an aspiring writer, also. Unfortunately, I was not able to really break into the magazine industry until now, but I don't think that makes me a newbie. Print mags are so hard to come by these days. It's always been a dream of mine, so I'll just keep at it. No matter Miss Osorio thinks (no offense).

Great blog.

Re: “They Don’t Dance No More…”

April — Sun, 12 Aug 2007 18:02:25 -0000

The video for It's OK isn't working for me, but from what I remember, Dre's on the song, not Big Boi.

I know I'm mad late with the comment. lol

Re: BET Continues to Disappoint

Chentastic — Wed, 08 Aug 2007 07:31:09 -0000

Peach, LOL @ "Take The Cake From Tocarra And If You Get Away You Win"! That girl sucks at everything other than sucking in her gut when the camera starts rolling. No class, no style, no grace...so she qualifies as a BET host perfectly.

And you know we all smelled that porn musical coming from D (can't bring myself to spell her "name"). Her & Busta musta been fucking for tracks :-)

Re: Top 10…

Chentastic — Wed, 08 Aug 2007 07:15:26 -0000

MTV must be taking Payola, that list is shitastic! SMH @ Common being #9...but maybe I should just be impressed that they put him on the list at all. Your list is muuuch better but I would have left Game off completely and put Remy Ma in his spot (yeah, stylistically challenged & nutzo but the flow is killing em).